2950 Vauxhall Road
Vauxhall (Union), NJ 07088
Phone: 908-964-1500
Fax: 908-964-8886

When You Meet with the Funeral Home

Chances are, within the first 24 hours of your loved one's death, you will need to meet with a Funeral Director to begin the funeral arrangements. While you could choose to meet with us, you could also decided to meet with another funeral provider.  Either way, the following information will help you prepare for what is often called "The arrangement conference."

Without a doubt, this is a difficult time for you and your loved ones.  Yet, it's comforting to know every member of the funeral home staff will be there to do their utmost to make this difficult time a little bit easier.  The  Funeral Director will guide you in making all the necessary decisions. It's good to know you are not alone.

Would You Like Someone to Go with You?

Perhaps you would like another member of the family to come along with you. Or maybe you would rather have a friend, or close neighbor join you in your visit to the funeral home.  While it is not necessary to bring someone with you for moral support, it can be very beneficial.

Please do not hesitate to ask someone to join you.  Chances are they will be honored at your request, and gladly step up to help you during this time.  When you ask, be sure to tell them that if they do not feel comfortable doing so, you will understand.

Who is Responsible for Making the Decisions?

It is important to know exactly who is legally responsible for making the funeral arrangement decisions for a loved one.  If the deceased has not expressed their wishes through a written document such as a Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care, or a Last Will and Testament, where the deceased has designated an agent to fulfill their wishes; then the chain of command is commonly as follows:

  • Legal Spouse/Legal Partner
  • Surviving Adult Child/Children
  • Surviving Parent
  • Surviving Adult Sibling
  • Ex-Spouse
  • Parent of Minor Child

The person designated as the responsible party, whoever they may be, needs to be present to make decisions, and sign documents.  If you have questions about the accepted kinship-related order of precedence, or are unclear about who is the responsible person in the funeral planning, call us.

Should Someone Else be Included in Making the Arrangements?

While assigning responsibility is an important part of funeral planning, it is also very  important to include any children, friends or other family who would like to be a part of arranging the funeral, and perhaps share in the cost of a funeral. Despite the fact that they may not have any legal decisions-making rights, their input could be very valuable to the process.

Assisting in making the final funeral arrangement decisions can be very empowering and help someone come to terms with the loss.  If there are people in your life who you feel should be asked to participate, make sure you ask them. They can always decline.

Have You Gathered the Necessary Documents?

Life and death are full of legalities.  When a loved one dies, it is not just an emotional matter for those left behind; it is a legal one which requires the timely completion of paperwork.  The Funeral Director will tell you that the first step in caring for your loved one involved completing the necessary information, then most of your meeting will be spent retrieving this information.

To assist the Funeral Director in preparing all the necessary documents, it is helpful to bring the following things with you:

  • Social Security Number
  • Date of Birth
  • Next of Kin details
  • Cemetery Deed
  • Deceased's Funeral pre-arrangement documents, if available
  • Deceased's Military Discharge papers
  • Deceased Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care
  • Revocable Living Trust
  • Background information for Obituary

If you have questions about the legal documents you should bring with you, please call us at 908-964-1500.